Mehmet Erturk | Saying No Is Your Job

Saying No

Every product leader I respect has the same superpower: they say no constantly.

Not because they're negative. Because they understand that every yes is a no to something else.

The Math

Your team has finite capacity. Let's say 100 units of work per quarter.

Stakeholder A wants 40 units. Stakeholder B wants 30 units. Stakeholder C wants 50 units. Maintenance and ops need 20 units.

That's 140 units. You have 100.

Something doesn't get done. The question is whether you choose what, or whether it happens by accident.

Saying yes to everything means failing at everything. Saying no deliberately means succeeding at what matters.

Why It's Hard

People don't like hearing no. They get upset. They escalate. They question your judgment.

Saying yes feels collaborative. You're a team player. You're helpful.

The consequences of yes are delayed. You won't feel the pain for months. The gratitude is immediate.

Saying no requires confidence. You have to believe your judgment is right when others disagree.

All of this makes yes easier in the moment. But it compounds into dysfunction.

The Cost of Yes

Teams that can't say no:

Ship nothing because they're working on everything
Have constant context switching
Miss commitments because they overcommit
Burn out from impossible expectations
Build mediocre versions of everything instead of great versions of fewer things

I've seen this pattern kill teams. The leader wants to be accommodating. The team drowns.

How to Say No

1. Say Yes to Something Else

"No" is hard. "Yes, but not this quarter" is easier.

"We can't do that now, but it's in our roadmap for Q3."

"Great idea. Let me prioritize it against what we've committed to."

"If we do this, we need to cut X. Which matters more?"

You're not rejecting the request. You're managing constraints.

2. Explain the Tradeoff

People accept no better when they understand why.

"If we build this feature, we can't fix the stability issues. Here's the data on how stability is affecting customers. Which should we prioritize?"

Make the cost visible. Let them participate in the decision.

3. Offer Alternatives

"We can't build the full feature, but we could do a lightweight version that solves 80% of the problem in 20% of the time."

"Engineering can't do it, but we could solve this with a process change / third-party tool / hiring."

Find creative solutions. But only if they actually exist.

4. Be Direct

Sometimes, the answer is just no.

"We're not going to do that. Here's why."

Don't hedge. Don't leave false hope. Clarity is kindness.

5. Escalate When Needed

If someone won't accept your no, escalate.

"I've explained why I don't think we should do this. If you disagree, let's bring it to [boss] and get a decision."

This isn't weakness. It's process. Better than caving on something you believe is wrong.

What Deserves a Yes

Saying no is important. But some things deserve yes.

Customer pain that's causing churn. Real pain with real business impact.

Technical risks that threaten the business. Security, compliance, stability.

Strategic priorities from leadership. If the CEO says it's a priority, that's data.

Quick wins with high ROI. Low effort, high value.

The framework: impact × confidence × alignment / effort. (For a structured approach to this, see Prioritizing Your Product Roadmap with ICE and RICE Frameworks.)

High score = yes. Low score = no.

The Personal Cost

Saying no has social cost. People will be disappointed. Some will be angry. Some will go around you.

That's the job.

If everyone is happy with your decisions, you're probably not making hard tradeoffs. You're either saying yes to everything or setting expectations so low that nobody asks for anything.

Building the Culture

No is easier when the team expects it.

In my teams:

Every request goes through prioritization
"Not now" is a valid outcome
Commitments are treated seriously (say no upfront, not after we've committed)
Tradeoffs are made explicit

When people understand the constraints, they stop expecting miracles.

My Script

When someone asks for something I can't/won't do:

Acknowledge. "I hear you. That's a real problem."
Explain constraints. "Here's what we're committed to and why."
Offer options. "We could do X instead, or revisit in Q3."
Make a decision. "Given the tradeoffs, I don't think we should prioritize this now."
Invite escalation. "If you disagree, let's discuss with [decision-maker]."

Direct. Respectful. Clear.

Saying no is how you create focus (see Strategy Is What You Say No To). Focus is how you ship. Shipping is how you create value.

Get comfortable with no. Your team is counting on it.